For preschoolers who have a parent fighting overseas, there are many traits that may surface as a manifestation of the stress and anxiety of the situation. It is important for parents to make time to talk to the child and let them know that what they are feeling is normal and that there are ways to work together to cope with the anxiety.
Separation Anxiety
Preschoolers may become fearful when the parent who is at home with them drops them off for school or even at a friend’s house to play. They may be afraid that the parent isn’t coming back right away or even fear that they will be abandoned. It is important to let the child’s teachers and caregivers know the situation so that they will be understanding and able to best handle problems that may come up as a result of a parent being overseas. When all caregivers are in the loop, they can work together to help the child through tough times.
Trouble Sleeping
Many children have trouble sleeping when a parent is away. They may wake up throughout the night and have trouble sticking to their usual schedule. Sometimes they are afraid to sleep because they have had nightmares. Trying to create relaxing evening rituals and a feeling of security at home can help to get them back on track.
Changes in Behaviors
Some children with a parent overseas become very attached to specific toys or a blanket. They may seem to regress a bit in their development and favor toys and activities they enjoyed at a younger age. These symptoms are especially common in children with cautious personalities in the first place. Other children may exhibit behaviors that are completely new–trouble paying attention or violent behavior towards friends or classmates. It is important for the parent to talk through these issues and understand what may be at the root of behavior changes.
